This deeply resonates with where I’m currently at in my journey. My wife struggles to show up in her feminine because I struggle to show up in my masculine. And I struggle to do so in part because I’ve recently realized that I carry a deep sense of worthlessness, the idea that I’m not inherently worthy of love and thus constantly needing to fight to earn it. This affects every part of our relationship, among which is sex. I deeply love her but sometimes I despair of ever finding a relationship dynamic where we feel like lightly dancing together. And I still see this as problem solving. Your post invites me to shift my approach to dream and vision setting. Thanks Edmond.
I hear you in where you're at — thanks for sharing. Polarity is something that I want to cultivate more of as well in our relationship.
Love that you're inspired to do some dream and vision setting. Just an idea that occurred to me in reading your comment about wanting to lightly dance together — dance was actually the first modality that gave me a felt sense and reference point in my body of the type of relational dynamic I wanted.
Once you have a clearer sense of the dream dynamic you'd want, it could be worth exploring dancing together with your wife as a way to cultivate that felt sense in both of your bodies. For me, contact improv and fusion dance specifically were super helpful — and the effects rippled to other parts of our relational dynamic, including sex.
This deeply resonates with where I’m currently at in my journey. My wife struggles to show up in her feminine because I struggle to show up in my masculine. And I struggle to do so in part because I’ve recently realized that I carry a deep sense of worthlessness, the idea that I’m not inherently worthy of love and thus constantly needing to fight to earn it. This affects every part of our relationship, among which is sex. I deeply love her but sometimes I despair of ever finding a relationship dynamic where we feel like lightly dancing together. And I still see this as problem solving. Your post invites me to shift my approach to dream and vision setting. Thanks Edmond.
I hear you in where you're at — thanks for sharing. Polarity is something that I want to cultivate more of as well in our relationship.
Love that you're inspired to do some dream and vision setting. Just an idea that occurred to me in reading your comment about wanting to lightly dance together — dance was actually the first modality that gave me a felt sense and reference point in my body of the type of relational dynamic I wanted.
Once you have a clearer sense of the dream dynamic you'd want, it could be worth exploring dancing together with your wife as a way to cultivate that felt sense in both of your bodies. For me, contact improv and fusion dance specifically were super helpful — and the effects rippled to other parts of our relational dynamic, including sex.